Assuming

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"Hi Mary, it's good to see you .... when are you going back?"
"How are the children? .... only one? I thought they were two... Mich needs someone to play with..."
Without exaggeration this is how most conversations have begun since I got back. Then I wonder, "who says I am going back?", "even if I am, why don't you just enjoy the time I'm here for?, "who says I don't want other children?" "do you know whats been going on?".
I concluded that people are very presumptuous. The only person who asked an open ended question was Pastor Doug, he said "Mary are you here for a visit?" I found that a lot warmer.
Meanwhile some of the church folk are considering calling Sam and I in for counselling because we don't have other children. Sometimes these remarks can be very insensitive. I thank God that he healed me and helped me deal with giving back Nziiza and Kwizera other wise it would feel like they are touching sore spots.

Comments

  1. ia12:27 PM

    I'm sorry to hear that people have been presumptuous and not as sensitive as they should be. May our Father turn even these things for good.
    Love,
    Irene

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  2. Mrs.O2:47 PM

    Amen to that.

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  3. Anonymous7:28 AM

    Hi Mjay,

    Been a while...shame about the presumptions but I couldn't helpbut laugh at the invite to pray for you. LOOL.

    Hope you have a smooth adjustment.

    Maya

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