Preschool, pretty girls and valentines
I didn't hear much about this day until I was at University.
Over here it fits right in there with Christmas, Easter and Thanksgiving
I remember how during my first year on campus the place would go into a buzz as the day drew near - people praying for cards and flowers, others making sure things were good between them and their boyfriends. Me trying to fit in but not really getting it because I didn't have "a" boyfriend but had boys who were my friends.
I shared a room with a girl who took this day a little too seriously, she sat up all night "val" eve waiting for the clock to strike midnight hoping that her boy friend would show up with flowers, or else . So while some of us tried to get some sleep she was checking the clock and talking away.
People, he is only 4, what will he be learning by the time he is in grade school? Am I becoming old school already?
What is the concept here? I get the idea of appreciating your classmates and all but you should have seen his frustration when he was signing cards for kids he barely knew. I explained to him how all his classmates are special and that it would make them feel good (plus we have to abide by school rules).
Over here it fits right in there with Christmas, Easter and Thanksgiving
I remember how during my first year on campus the place would go into a buzz as the day drew near - people praying for cards and flowers, others making sure things were good between them and their boyfriends. Me trying to fit in but not really getting it because I didn't have "a" boyfriend but had boys who were my friends.I shared a room with a girl who took this day a little too seriously, she sat up all night "val" eve waiting for the clock to strike midnight hoping that her boy friend would show up with flowers, or else . So while some of us tried to get some sleep she was checking the clock and talking away.
Guess what?! it struck midnight, 10 passed, 20 passed, and there was no knock at the door. After a while she calmed down, figured this dream wasn't going to come true and resigned herself to sleep.
On the d-day, there was lots of talk about who had received flowers, who was still in waiting, who had broken up, who had chosen to "cut" lectures, who fell sick, the whole shebang.
My dear roomie finally got her bouquet after a whole day of nerves and then we had to sit quietly in the case of those who didn't.
Mich brought home a circular with the names of all his classmates, apparently he is supposed to write a val card for each of them.
People, he is only 4, what will he be learning by the time he is in grade school? Am I becoming old school already?
What is the concept here? I get the idea of appreciating your classmates and all but you should have seen his frustration when he was signing cards for kids he barely knew. I explained to him how all his classmates are special and that it would make them feel good (plus we have to abide by school rules).
I was at a loss for words when he said "only the pretty girls get cards", then he mentioned names of the girls who were pretty and the ones who were not. Obviously I had several questions - where did you get that idea?, who makes for a pretty girl? who doesn't? eish!!!
What I wonder about is whether it's a day for celebrating friendships? a day for lovers? a day for secret admirers? a day to state intentions? all of the above??
Is it supposed to go both ways? or is it just the guys giving the ladies? (but giving a guy a bouquet is just wrong).
Does it depend on the crowd? say for example;
If you're in kindergarten - your classmates, teacher and parents
In high school - your crashIn college - your date, some one you secretly admire
Work - making your intentions known
Married - your spouse, or in some cases someone you secretly admire
Maybe I should research this whole Valentines day thing but I must say who ever thought it up/ created it/ whatever, would be happy to know that things go crazy around this time every year.
Oh by the way in case you were wondering, to my shock and surprise I did get a Valentines card that first year on campus and only figured out the sender 3 years later.
Apparently this valentine's thing is such a big issue in America that's why they have to put it into the young hearts...it's an investment for the future..would want their flowers not being bought?
ReplyDeleteThe pretty girls are the ones who when they smile, you feel really content and glad
The trend is catching up almost every where. even in our Ug, the primary kids are stating to know it's a day for red stuff to be bought.
I always liked it in grade school, when we gave cards to everyone in our class -- and celebrated friendship. But as we get older, it gets so ridiculous!!! People say that it is a holiday invented to sell chocolate and red plastic junk to silly consumers... and that sure is what it feels like to me!!!
ReplyDeleteHaha, of course, I don't have a boyfriend this year, so maybe I'm just being bitter :-)
Emi, ati "the pretty girls are the ones who when they smile you feel really content..."
ReplyDeleteLOL! now, is that the mind of a four year old or ...?
Ray-Ray, I totally agree, its a business. Hope you have a nice day anyway.
Valentines at 4 years of age.....banange!
ReplyDelete3TOC- That is the world we are living in.
ReplyDeleteUgandan girl - you are still special and loved and that is what counts